2020: What a year?!

Do you have a replica of yourself in another body? Someone who isn’t related to you by blood but then there’s this obvious connection, especially someone of the same sex on the basis of FRIENDSHIP. Hey, not sexual though, delete those “silly” thoughts from your head!
Mind you, friendship is relative but there’s still an iota of generalization in the term. It could mean different things to different people but there must be a connection. I will be throwing out few rhetoric questions though, read along and give answers to yourself.
Do you follow the cliché way of choosing your friends or you consciously choose on your own terms? Do you generalize the reasons for your choice or it is solely personal? Do you prefer connecting to someone who has an entirely different personality/temperament from you? Or you connect to someone who is like you; not exactly but there are many similarities? Well, different strokes for different folks it is then.
Truth is, connecting with someone who is entirely different from you creates this bridge of misunderstanding. You will hardly understand each other except on rare occasions. I wouldn’t want to give you the normal platitude sermon about friendship with lots of hackneyed phrases; it’s more like I am serving you same meal, different recipe on a whole new plate. Yummy! I know right?😋😁
Another question: are your friendships based on proximity or core values?
There are persons who stay in the same neighborhood with you, who attends the same school/church/fellowship with you, who stays in the same compound/lodge with you and you basically have “good” rapport amongst yourselves; enough gist and hanging around because you are just a stone throw away from each other. Proximity clearly made you friends with such person/people. Give “proximity” some accolades please! You succeeded in building communication based on physical attachment, but failed psychologically. Try not to see that fellow for a month, I bet you, the vibe will be dry except maybe on rare occasions. You termed yourself “friends” because you were physically close. It’s not entirely a bad idea. Nah, it’s not! But then you would want to sustain the physical bond created even in the absence of each other, that’s where choosing based on core values comes to limelight.
Values should determine your friends a lot. Your values. The ones you uphold, not some outlined to-do list. Values should be your captain to prevent your ship from sinking when the captain is not physically available. Regardless of personality/temperament, values is the big deal. That’s why sometimes, it is easy to be introverted and have an extrovert as a friend or the other way around because you have similar values.
It’s a good thing not to have distance as a barrier in your friendships but physical closeness or not, values sustains.
Quickly, go and service your ships; thorough checking. Change the captain if need be or reduce the people on the ship. Check your cabin too, you wouldn’t want to turn it into a bin.