TYPICAL NIGERIAN PARENTS
They skip Eph 6:4; that verse kinda alters their ego. All they seem to do well is make rules and set a child on the highway of expectations to fulfill and seek total obedience without questions.
To them, training a child is all about financial responsibilities: paying fees, providing food, shelter and clothing. Even though all these are basic necessities a child needs, there’s more to training a child.
They seek respect and submission of which they deserve but give no “attention” or a listening ear to a child’s opinion. They are always right and the child is always wrong; thinking they don’t need correction from the child but the child needs correcting from them.
To them, a child is bound to make wrong choices but they can never make wrong decisions for the child. Oh yes! Because they love the child too well to mislead him/her. How thoughtful!
They equate age to wisdom; elders they are, you must not question their words.
As a norm, they impose things on the child, thinking he/she doesn’t have desires, dreams, passions and willpower. They limit the child’s knowledge and ability to what they knew in their younger years, applying archaic rules, beliefs and ideas forgetting that times change, and change is constant.
Emotions of a child to them is a myth; not knowing that it plays a huge role in the maturity of a child.
"Feelings" is a taboo.
They think their days as children is the same with the era of the child. They believe the world revolves around them, using words as they like without minding the effect of those words on a child, which most times, are derogatory.
Gradually, the child becomes scared to feel, to speak, and to confide in his/her parents.
They are religious!
They are Nigerian Parents!
You can’t blame them because beneath all these lies a sincere love for the child. They work their ass off just to provide the basic necessities, go through thick and thin to make sure a child is comfortable but…training a child stopped revolving around that a long time ago.
Many times I would want to tell my mum she made a mistake, she would sometimes wave it off. To her, I shouldn't be doing so ..cos am the child, she's the parent. Parents should live above taking physical care of their children, what about spiritual care? How many times have you had a heart to heart talk with them? What happened to their emotional and psychological well being? You want your child to be a doctor whereas his passion lies in music. Watch it! You're killing him with your over demands!
ReplyDeleteNigerian parents shouldn't be overly authoritative and be more like the western ones; so that the children can see them as not only their parents, but also their best friends!
Exactly. Let's hope our generation will do better.
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DeleteThis is great and inspiring. Good work dear. Age is not wisdom. There are tools at 40 and wise men at 14.
ReplyDeleteVery true.
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Typical Nigerian parents as you say, very impossible to correct, never guilty and always forces you to do things... Childhood days were scary though but kudos to the discipline it instilled.
ReplyDeleteWell, we shouldn't ALWAYS learn discipline the hard way.
DeleteSo sorry about your childhood, good thing you became a better person.
My point also....... Welcome to Nigeria where a common I love you to your friend sends another message to them, because our parents didn't instill it in us to always tell us I love you and that has made us believe that such statement has an emotional and erotic meaning to it.....
ReplyDeleteMy dear, welcome to Nigeria.😂😂
DeleteWe will survive and do better.
Nigeria parents are the funniest human being existing, they expect their children to never have sex before getting married meanwhile 80% knows that they never got married a virgin
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DeleteThere's that one too.
Okay. One very thing we need to understand is that- Human beings are quite difficult to control.
ReplyDeleteRelating this to Nigerian parents- most of them don't and can't heed to their child's advice. Why?
It's simple. You can't seem to be treading in a wrong part and expect your parents to listen to your own quota of advice.
Remember that foolishness is in truth heart of a child but rod of...
Only God can help us.
More ideas dear.
Thank you .😇🤗
DeleteFor your contribution too.
You just made a very powerful point. African parents never believe that they are wrong. Many times I try to tell my parents things going on with me but with d way they will accept the issue will be devastating so I end up not saying it
ReplyDeleteJeeez!!🥺🥺 I can imagine how that feels. So sorry. I hope our generation will do better.
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